The definition of regret as a verb is to feel remorse for, feel sorry for, or be contrite about. It's also feeling sad about the loss of or absence of... If one were to be willing to be completely honest, one could fill in the blanks with great detail and insight as to what one's regrets were. Using the word as a noun, the definition is sadness associated with some wrong done or some disappointment.Everyone at some point or moment in their life has regret bacause
fife is so full of choices and we are mere humans, unable to always choose the right path.
Regret is one of those key facets of learning, however it's what we do with those regrets makes us a better person, do we just wallow in them and become bitter, moan about our lot or do we do something about them? In some respects we all need regrets, they make us more determined, make us do things differently, make us speak out where we may not have or learn to keep silent when we would have freely offered our opinion. It makes us hold back when we would have jumped in feet first or makes us step up to the plate when normally we would have held back.We make decisions all the time, some good and some bad. But life is about making mistakes and learning from them.
Regrets are the footprints we leave behind in the ever changing sands of life. They are the incomplete and poorly formed footprints that warn others to chose another path, or they are deep and confident and defined with precision that say, "I walked this way after many failed attempts. This is a path that can be trusted. Follow until the footprints fade, then begin your own journey into the future of human experience." Without the regrets, we leave no mark. Without regrets, we leave no signs or stories from which others can continue the one journey of humanity we all contribute to in our own small way. How sad to leave this world without ever having made a mark.
The objective is not to live life without regrets, but to chose your regrets wisely whenever possible. Take risks, love with abandon, set your mind free to think thoughts no one has dared think before, but don't be reckless in your actions. Be bold. Be confident. Be positive and cloak yourself in an attitude you may not deserve or have not yet earned, but wear the cloak and live with purpose. Be ready to take the blows of regrets, and muster up the courage and humility to make amends. Regrets teach us how to say, "I was wrong," and "I'm sorry," and "Will you forgive me." When we learn to speak these words, we learn the depth of their difficulty. We learn to forgive and judge by a different set of rules that are less rigid and hurtful without reason. We learn to chose our inevitable regrets with wisdom.
A regret is a feeling, and feelings are the middle-man of our conscience, our right life, our purpose for being alive. We can't base our life on feelings and emotions because they carry with them no "product." They are the messengers of what is lies inside of us. Physical pain is a feeling, but if we live our lives only reacting to the pain and doing whatever we can to make it go away, we will miss the broken bone the pain is trying to tell us about, or we won't visit the dentist to repair a fragile tooth that needs attention. As it is with physical feelings, so to is it with emotional feelings. They're messengers that tell us of our purpose, of right and wrong, of the actions we need to take or stop. Attempting to eliminate regret is, literally, killing the messenger.
It is possible to live life without regrets, but it would be a life left unexplored of its potential and possibilities. It could be a life lived in denial of the imperfection of human existence; a life without communication with our messengers and the stories they have to tell. Compassion and forgiveness don't come easily, and regrets are often the price we pay for living bold, and learning how to give to others the most difficult gifts.
But i do think regrets are not to be feared.Just because of such irreversible decisions, would not only deprive you of the happiness that might have been but also if you fail to accept the consequences and live with it, you would not only torture yourself but the people around you and live in regrets all over again. There'll be missed opportunities but do not let them turn into regrets. It will only hold you back. Turn them into challenges to push ahead and to strive, struggle and succeed. Believe me, these are the paths to take that you will never regret.
Hee Kah
We born as a candle is lighted up, we live as a candle burning, we die is a candle extinguish and then we are "heard no more”! Tomorrow, tomorrow and tomorrow, we merely passing each day, meaninglessly, aimlessly …... Waiting for your life's candle to shimmer away into the darkness... We may influence the lives of others, but they too are doomed to death, and death turns us into useless and meaningless “dust”. In a few generations most of our accomplishments will be totally forgotten, the memories of our lives reduced to a mere name etched on a tombstone or written on a genealogy chart. In a few centuries even our tombstones will be unreadable due to weathering; our skeletal remains will be all that is left of us. Life is only the time given us to play our part in the stage, although it is full of noise but actual is it meaningless. After that, we are heard no more! We human life is short and it like a flickering candle blowing in the wind; it may get blown at any time! Life is temporary like a candle, and it is a journey to a dark end!
